How to Manage Being Apart


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Hello Loves!

Due to my untimeliness, and procrastination, I have fallen off schedule (again). Right now, I am at the mercy of my work schedule, so I have yet to adjust to the seasonal changes of summer! But have no fear, I have a butt load of things planned out for you guys which are currently in the works.

Today’s blog post is about being apart from your significant other for some time due to family vacations, work, life, etc. 

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years, and for that first summer, I had to live with the fact that I wasn’t going to physically be able to see him for about a month, since he visits his family in another state. But it’s okay, we made it through that first summer, and three more after that!

I have to say though, being away from each other for that long sucks. But, to be honest, it was refreshing at the same time. Colin and I are the same age, and therefore see each other almost everyday during the school year (more so now that we are in college), so this month break actually gives me the opportunity to miss him, and appreciate how great it is to have him in my life almost every single day.

Regardless of being able to do this three times and running, it doesn’t take away from the fact that I miss him… a lot…, and it doesn’t take away that I’m a bit lonely. But, here are some ways to bear through it, and next thing you know, your significant other will be right back at your side in no time.

  1. Skype, Snapchat, or FaceTime:
    With today’s technology it is quite easy to contact someone on the other side of the world. Take advantage of this! Skype, Snapchat, and FaceTime are your best friends while you and your significant other are apart. These applications give you the opportunity to have a “face-to-face” conversation.
  2. Hang Out with Friends and Family: 
    Take this time apart to spend time with those around you. For college students, your old friends are back in town for the summer. Let loose, and have fun with your girlfriends and guyfriends! Go to the movies, have a cookout, go swimming, etc. Sometimes when we are in a relationship, we forget to take the time to spend time with others who also care for us, and enjoy our company.
  3. Work, Work, Work, Work: 
    If possible, apply for a job! Instead of moping around all day, be productive, and earn some money! Build up your resume! (Not to sound like a total mom.) Take this time to find some opportunities to gain connections, and get a jump start on your personal savings (if you haven’t already).
  4. Volunteer: 
    On top of working, or if you would rather not work, you could volunteer! There are other ways to build up your resume than with a job. Volunteering proves to people that you have the proper skills, characteristics, and intentions to really make a difference in your community.
  5. Start a Blog, YouTube Channel, etc.: 
    Ever had a hobby or a passion which was long forgotten, or just want to try something new? This is your chance! Be productive, and start an adventure you wish you started a long time ago, or continue in a previous passion. Whether its exercising, dancing, singing, painting, writing, photography, etc., go out and resume/ignite that passion.

Summer is a time to relax, and recollect yourself from the brutal school year. I know, I know, it sucks that you and your significant other are apart, but don’t make the situation into a tragedy, think of it as a way to redefine yourself, and a way for your relationship to grow even stronger. It’s a win win (kind of)! Next thing you know, you will be back in their arms.

Until Next Time xoxo 


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